“When I told the Tarot reader that in addition to my writing I also want true and lasting love, which is radically different from simply wanting a man or a relationship, he was dismissive. Real love as opposed to just being in a relationship means that no one gets to just be or have a man or just be or have a woman. Real love is about being radically opened up from the inside out, not enacting roles. If it were just about having a man, I would already have a man, as just having a man would reduce me to just being—playing— a woman.”

From “As Seen on TV” by Masha Tupitsyn, an incredible post which I’ve reblogged in its entirety before. Tonight, as I was cleaning my apartment and thinking about my future, this passage came into my head.