“When it comes to lamenting age and beauty we, both men and women alike, only lament women’s age and beauty (Paul Auster: “Looking at a beautiful woman in her 50s and 60s is not the same as looking at a 17 year old girl. It just isn’t”), as if a man doesn’t lose anything. Doesn’t age. Doesn’t grow old. Doesn’t get wrinkles or lose his hair, doesn’t put on weight, doesn’t stop being a boy the way a woman stops being a girl. The only difference is that we can’t accept the changes that happen to women, but we can accept the changes that happen to men. We can’t move through time (can’t look forward, only back) with women, but we can move through time with men. The cultural practice of looking at women and obsessing over not just female beauty, but female youth—what women supposedly “lose” through time, both on and off the screen—is a universal. Everyone is invested in doing it. It’s true, a woman is not the same thing as a girl. But neither is a man the same thing as a boy. We mourn one passage while celebrating another.”