mashatupitsyn:

Kathleen Hannah from Bikini Kill and Le Tigre on dating and falling in love with Adam Horowitz from the Beastie Boys. Her comment echoes my “frustration” post yesterday, where I quote bell hooks saying something very similar about love and loving (hooks: “I take my community where I can find it. When I think about my search for love, yeah, I might have an ideal in my mind of who it is I could partner with, and life might bring me something completely different; someone that does not meet that ideal but that is loving. And then that’s the challenge: will I choose to love or will I stay attached to my ideal in some way that keeps that love from me? And that to me is so much harder to think about. The way we use labels and the way labels isolate people and what does it mean to imagine a world where we’re not bound by labels?…Identity politics has its place but the more important place in our lives is who we connect with. Who we find we can love. And we don’t always connect with the people that are just like us.”)